Most guys masturbate like it’s a fist-pumping race. That’s cool for newcomers and quickies, but a true master ‘bator knows there are many ways to charm a trouser snake.
While other articles about improving your masturbation technique recommend switching hands, using toys, arousing different body parts, or humping random objects, our masturbation techniques cum from first-hand experience and require nothing more than your dick, hand, and some quality lube. Even better, you can enjoy these techniques solo or with a friend (or more).
SETTING THE SCENE
To really improve your masturbation technique, treat a whack-off session like a one-man date:
– Set aside some alone time and a space where you can feel comfortable, and safe, and not be interrupted.
– Set the scene for self-seduction: Shower, wear sexy underwear, play chill music, put the lights on low, get some lube specially formulated for stroking, grab a towel for clean-up, and queue up some sure-fire porn to get you in the mood.
– Explore: The brain is the most powerful sexual organ, and “gentlemen’s time” is the perfect opportunity to explore your body and fantasies in new ways. While stroking, try running your fingers through your hair, and along your ears, neck, chest, nips, thighs, balls, and hole — these extra touches can work you up to new sensual heights.
– Change positions: A lot of guys jerk off while sitting or laying down. But by sitting up, standing, laying on your side, leaning against a wall, or spanking it in other positions, you can learn how to present and work your meat in new and alluring ways.
THE BACKHAND: Switching your whack-off style can start with switching your grip. Instead of stroking with your dominant hand thumb-side-up, try it thumb-side-down. This will increase pressure on your dick’s entire underside rather than just the head.
THE TWO-HANDER: You can use one hand after the other to tug continuously upward or downward on your dong, or interlace your fingers to create a “hand-gina” that’ll apply pressure to all sides of your wang as you fuck it.
POLISH THAT HELMET: The head of your penis (the glans) has 4,000 nerve endings focusing on it can make you convulse like never before. For some guys, too much direct stimulation may feel painful. For others, it’ll slowly build a nice tingling sensation, like when you really need to piss. But to avoid chafing, try a lube that combines water and silicone for some gentle but prolonged exploration.
Use the lubed-up palm of your hand to repeatedly rub on your cock head for as long as you can stand it. Alternately, try a gentle, repeated “twisting” motion on the head with your thumb and index, like you’re gently trying to twist off a bottle cap.
FORESKIN FOREPLAY: If you have foreskin, pull it above the head, then tug on and shake it. The movement will stimulate your entire shaft. If your foreskin is loose, slip a wet finger under your hood and encircle the head for some unique pleasure. You can also try these moves with your lips and tongue when blowing uncut guys — believe me, they’ll be impressed.
PLEASURING THE PISS SLIT: Put lube on your index or thumb finger and rub your urethral opening (where piss comes out). Gently rub across the slit, as if opening its tiny lips with your fingertip. The deeper you touch, the more intense the sensation.
FREE YOUR FRENULUM: Use a lubed-up finger to focus on the frenulum, the underside where the shaft meets the head. While some men direct a warm-water showerhead or place a vibrator against it for continuous stimulation until climax, you can also just form a ring around the head by making the “OK sign” with your thumb and index right below your glans. Try vibrating the ring there for a while as the pleasurable feeling builds.
WAGGING THE DONG: Stop focusing on the head for a bit and try stroking the lower part of your shaft instead, near the base where it enters the ball sack. Every now and then, gently wag your hard dick by bouncing it between your thumb and forefingers or smacking it into the palm of your hand — it’ll shake nice vibrations through your entire cock.
GO FUCK YOURSELF: Instead of pumping your fist, keep it still and let your hips do the thrusting, just like if you were fucking a bottom. You can also lay on your side and do this to avoid getting tired. Alternately, you can use your index and middle fingers to slip your half-hard cock between your lubed-up thighs and then use the fingers to continually push the base of the cock cock between your legs, though you may want to use some long-lasting silicone lube so you can enjoy the sensation for a good while.
APPROACH THE EDGE: “Edging” means jerking off right up to the point before climaxing and then stopping to cool off a little before continuing. Doing this for a while is called “gooning.” Gooning can help you learn to avoid premature ejaculation and also result in huge loads and orgasms that feel so good your forehead will cave in.
STOPPING THE BLOW: This mind-bending pro-move can help you orgasm like never before. Right as you’re starting to climax, push firmly against your perineum, the spot between your balls and anus (also known as the “taint” or the “gooch.”) This will block your jism from traveling through the tube to your cock head, creating a one-of-a-kind sensation as your cock and body convulse in orgasm. Release after a couple of seconds and your cum may shoot harder and further than ever before. A warning though: Some men can feel pain from this move, so experiment with it gradually.
It’s also normal if your dick doesn’t get hard when masturbating. Sexologist Emily Nagoski says that anywhere between 70 to 90 percent of all people don’t get hard or wet when receiving sexual stimulation — this is called “arousal non-concordance.” It’s totally normal and nothing to feel ashamed of. If your genitals don’t react to touching, simply allow yourself to enjoy the pleasure without any additional performance anxiety. Pleasure, not climax, is the goal.
While some of these masturbation techniques may work for transgender men, trans men may prefer a lube specially created for their dicks. Lastly, you can always use cock rings, masturbation sleeves, prostate stimulators, dildos, and other toys to enhance your pleasure. Happy stroking!