Social Lubricant: A Conversation with Matthew Camp

On November 27, the world will be introduced to a first-of-its-kind reality series called ‘ opens in a new windowSlag Wars.’ . The SFW series, produced by porn company Men.com. Follows Cock Destroyers opens in a new windowRebecca More, opens in a new windowSophie Anderson, and the internet’s favorite top daddy opens in a new windowMatthew Camp. While they hunt for the next international queer sex symbol.

“Queer sex symbols are like any other pillar of greatness––it’s all about owning who you are,” Camp explains to RIDE. “The most successful people in love, business (or anything, really). Are the ones who completely own who they are and derive power from it. When you love yourself and make it a priority to share that enthusiasm for the self…that is what’s fucking sexy.”

The series features an entirely Queer cast of seven aspiring stars. Of all gender identities and sexual orientations with unique (and underrepresented) stories to share. In short: you’re going to feel a whole lot of things.

“I think what people aren’t expecting is how much heart there is in this show,” Camp says. “I can’t speak for other reality shows, but I know that they don’t make it a point to showcase real human experiences and Queer bonding like Slag Wars does.”

Ahead of the show’s premiere, RIDE spoke to Camp about his favorite sex positions, what he loves in a bottom. And his advice for Instagays and Queer models who want to get famous.

Ride Bodyworx: In an interview with Gay Times in 2014, you said, “When it comes to monogamy, I just know what works for me and at this point, I’m very selfish and I need a lot of attention.” Have to ask: are you still monogamous? 2014 was a real long time ago.

Matthew Camp: Wow! That’s the weird thing about giving so many interviews over the years. Sometimes you’re faced with things you’ve said publicly and don’t really identify with anymore.

I will say that I don’t think being selfish is a bad thing. I just have a lot of things going on in my life and need lots of help keeping these creative fires lit. It doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy sharing and loving others.

Monogamy is an institution that, like many institutions, is based on antiquated ideas that need to be modernized. But it’s also something that is 100 percent dependent on the communication. Between those who are engaged with it as a guiding force in their lives. Currently, I’m only monogamous to my loyal opens in a new windowOnlyFans subscribers [laughs] and those who are going to love my show, Slag Wars.

Ride Bodyworx: You and Rebecca More own Daddy Couture. How did the partnership come about? Tell us the story of how you two met!

Matthew Camp: Like everyone else with a pulse and a smartphone. I had become familiar with the Cock Destroyers a few years ago. I’d engaged in some innocent internet flirtation and, eventually, that led to me working with them! The Cock Destroyers and I were early spokespeople for the Daddy Couture brand because we believed in the integrity and identity of a truly queer brand that is super sex-positive.

Eventually, the Daddy team was looking to expand and, from conversations we’d had about our goals, it became apparent that the Cock Destroyers. And I had a real opportunity with the company where we could take the reins and turn it into something so much bigger.

Ride Bodyworx: Most gays want to be “Instafamous,” but the volume of competition has made it incredibly difficult. Yet, you’ve made it happen––and then some. What do you think are the keys to your success?

Matthew Camp: I think it’s about figuring out what you can do that nobody else has tried. When I first got on Instagram (which feels like a century ago). everyone thought I was gross or slutty for posting shirtless pictures. My mentor suggested that I get on the platform and showcase my sex appeal. Which was totally unheard of and quite shocking back in the early days. In doing that, I had accidentally uncovered something nobody else was doing. Even if you’re super late to adopting a specific social media platform. You still can figure out what it is that makes you stand out and capitalize on it.

Ride Bodyworx: You were raised Jehovah’s Witness and told Attitude that your attraction to men caused you to disconnect from the religion. Care to expand on that?

Matthew Camp: I think it was a ‘right place right time’ kind of thing. The area where I grew up was surrounded by other non-religious teens who were super into raves and drugs which. For a teenager in California, is a lifestyle that’s super easy to fall into. I’d always had a lingering distrust of religion. So when I began hanging out with teens who were anti-establishment and hedonistic. It felt like I’d found a religion that was speaking my language.

Through all of that, I’m still close with my entire family. Thankfully, they put up with me during those years. And I’m very grateful that they’ve always loved and supported me. Which I know is not always the case in queer life. Thankfully, I seem to have lucked out.

Ride Bodyworx: Were you always so sex-positive and confident, or did you go through those awkward gayby days?

Matthew Camp: When I look back at pictures of my early days in NYC, I feel like an awkward gayby, but then I remember that people were tipping me while I was [go-go] dancing, so I guess I wasn’t that bad? But I’ve never had any feeling that sex was inherently bad or even subversive.

The human body has always been something I’ve loved. Especially as a young kid, I would dance and pose for hours in all kinds of overly sexy (mostly female) forms. Once I figured out that I could use my body through dancing and modeling to make a living, it kind of cemented the whole concept that sex sells and it isn’t something to be ashamed of.

Ride Bodyworx: This is a lube blog, so let’s slip into some sexier topics: As a daddy top, what do you love in a bottom?

Matthew Camp: I like confidence––that goes for a date, a fuck, or even a conversation. When you get in bed with someone and you can feel their confidence and excitement, I think that’s the sexiest thing. I don’t mind helping someone along that might be new to sex or need a little encouragement (I can be a nice daddy, too), but for a real good time, I like it when someone is just ready to open right up and let me dive in. I’m pretty open about how much I love a hole––especially a gaped one. I suppose that goes into the confidence thing. Someone who knows how much I want their hole and is excited to let me in.

Ride Bodyworx: What are your favorite sex positions and why?

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Matthew Camp: I love a person on their stomach (just pressed into a mattress) and I can put my entire weight on them and feel my chest fit into the concave of their backs. It allows me to kiss the back of the neck and feel my whole body on top of theirs. It feels more intimate, which is something I’m starting to enjoy more and more, especially since I have sex for a living.

Ride Bodyworx: When you’re not making porn, what kind of porn do you like to get off to?

Matthew Camp: Definitely anything centered on a hole [laughs]. I’m unashamed by how much I love a wet, gaping hole.

Ride Bodyworx: What’s the quickest way to your heart?

Matthew Camp: That’s easy: someone who is creative, self-sufficient, and driven. I love an entrepreneur. I love someone who knows how to make money off of a talent or a craft and works non-stop like myself.

Ride Bodyworx: What does an ideal date look like to you?

Matthew Camp: I’m such a hard worker that even on a date I would want to be doing something creative, like helping my partner with their particular craft or occupation. By that, I mean going to support someone at an art opening or seeing their performance if they sing or act. Maybe reenact the scene from Ghost and sit behind someone while making pottery, that’s still craft-related!